Decoding Love :)

Love in logical sense is just getting used to one person , till an extent that all your instincts rushes towards him/her , loosing the ability to avail any other alternative. Its hidden meaning is Addiction , which is nothing but weakness.If its taken care and in limit , its a pleasure and beyond that its Pain!

You start to do everything with just one person  and it becomes your habbit. Brain closes its doors and windows to look for any other alternative. Every fun, misery or activity just revolves around this 1 person. You lead to loose your life by making this person your life. Every thought starts with this person and ends with this person. It shapes up into a weakness and finally addiction.

Once anything is your weakness or addiction you can imagine life in its absence. Moment this thing or person departs from your life , you loose the reason to continue to live. Life looses its lustre , you feel enervated. It feels like an unending void , all you have around is unending silence  and loneliness. We tend to go paranoid by this silence around us.

This state is actually not new , however it was just ignored due to presence of that person , rather constant presence of that person. If this happens with your first break-up, its fine. However, people land up in this emotional ‘cold-turkey’ one after the other.

This can be easily countered , if you act smart and with your intellect. Just avoid relying on any one person , activity or Job. Get smart , observe things and you will get sign when it starts to head in same direction and will lead to pain. Pain of Addiction!

Have more than 1 friends . 1 friend is always special , but just don't build every activity around her/him. Make some friends at work , make some with you common interest, just get open and friends will pour in. Dont be a Jerk, walk up to a guy or girl and talk. Can! your ego and dump it in grand Canyon.

Take up some activity , this helps when you don't have people around you. Music and Dance are one of the most common activities. Take up something Creative . It requires you to explore and takes your thought away from your Love or addiction . Even if you wanna love also , it will freshen you up and your love will not be stale , with time.

Get involved with some physical fitness activity.99% people in this world are passionate about their Body or food. These are organic passions of human being . Pick either of these , these grow with you .You Can feel it with your senses. Once you are into this cycle, its addictive too. In this You befriend yourself. Nothing better than that.

Life becomes really lighter and more fun this way. Yo feel like a King of your Heart, Mind  and Soul.

All you need to ask is.....Am I thinking around this Person all fucking Time ?...N smile! ... N Act!

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Unguided Crossroads

Bangalore, India's IT hub and husge education center. Millions come here , realize thier dreams and never go back or CAN'T GO BACK! . Yes , thats what happens all over booming IT Hub. Exactly like a gangster who cant go back after persuing that path for a while. Wisdom never allows you start a back journey. It resonates like a sin by Society, Family and Friends.

Every salary end of the month weakens his gut feeling and every banal assignment again makes it strong. I am talking about the youngest and believe me one of the most inteligent people around me. They are interesting people full of energy , excelent in anything which comes in there way. However they don't like what they are doing and most important they also don't know what else to do. Start going deaper into the subject they are working in or Start preparing for higher studies which everyone does or do something of thiere own , where the are responsible running things around.

Below is conversation which triggered thoughts above.

Rayan enter gym and heads for some streaching while bumping into a friend, "Hey Kalra, good to see you"

Kalra [while doing here passive streaches and in extream streached position] : Hey , how are you? Do you hit Gym at this time?

Rayan : I am Cool ,Yeh this is the time I come. How come you are here today at this time? are you on leave?

Kalra [still in streached pose] :Today is a holiday for something!

Rayan : Wow! , hey you complete your streaches.

Kalra : Its fine!

Rayan :Okay, where were you ? I haven't seen since long.

Kalra : I was working from Delhi office for a month, I had some family emergency. One unit of my team sits there.(She works in Accenture)

Rayan : Oh I thought you went to US , remember you were talking about some consultant , last time we meet [I remember every word of yours :-} ]

Kalra : No dude its not that smooth and I dont know what I wana do!

Rayan : Yeah , we all are in same boat. We dont like what we are doing and no freakin Idea what we really wana do. Why din't you stayed back in Delhi, you have your family there, right?

Kalra : Yeah, I am better off here. I have a space here. With family its a different story.Again I miss my home , doesnt like Bangalore but dont know yaar!

Rayan : Yes babes you are resonating my feelings! ... this sucks! I dont Like bangalore , neither Delhi ... same story! ... okay lets get back to our workout!

Kalra ; Bye! c ya

We escape that feeling by going to gym , joining a dance class , practicing Yoga and meditating , however it cant be cured . There is no sign to guide. There is no path so clear to adapt . I am sure many are like Rayan and Kalra and I am also confident by there abilities that they will find the way out of this to present themselve and world with something great! .

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9 ways to get your 'Spark' back

I loved this article ,however was not perfectly conviced with it direction towards 'Perfection'. You can read this and have your own take aways. Its a nice read for anyone , even for so called achievers ;)

Perfection is possible for every one of us—no matter what age, color, nationality or level of education.

It is a living experience that we can nurture and intensify when we stretch our wings to fly a little higher. How do we directly experience our perfection, hidden as it is, within everyday appearances? Here are nine steps to a transformed way of being:

 

1.  Awaken to your true identity. All caught up in the same empty routines we mistake for “reality,” we easily lose touch with who we truly are. Stop! You are not an ant, so there is no reason to trek up and down the same path in a boring line when you can simply step aside, lift your head, and smell the roses. In other words, awaken from your unconscious patterns and reconnect with your intelligence.

 

2.  Choose to be the authentic you. Be you because everyone else is taken. There’s no need to worry about the outer world when the inner world is solid. You can experience and radiate perfection only by being yourself. On top of it, practice being present and being real because this will unlock the power within you to attract the same caliber people as well as generate thrilling opportunities in your life.

 

3.  Find the balance between “doing” and “being.” Most of us get caught in the universe of doing and are preoccupied with survival. Both of the universes are equally important and so finding that fine balance between doing and the being will allow you to tap back into your core and fulfill your goals.

 

4.  Get back to play! Our perceptions of reality sometimes remove us from the sense of play. It is time you start playing all over again. Play throughout the day. Play while working on any project or chore. This will, not only improve the outcome, but it will also boost your imagination and creativity and fill you with vital energy.

 

5.  Find your meaning and your purpose. The meaning in life lies in our purpose. The first question you should ask yourself is, “What would I live and die for?” Is it your family, your dreams, or some higher cause? You must find that out because it will ignite the fire within you.

 

6.  Let go of your mind. We tend to live in our minds and forget our bodies. Our bodies energize our minds. Tune into your body, notice the energy level you are at, and work on raising the bar or moving up your chakras. The higher you go, the more you’ll recharge and the faster you’ll calm your mind. Use whatever path works for you—walk in the woods, go for a run, do yoga, play hockey, or meditate.

 

7.  Let fear disappear. Fear should not stop you from moving forward. Instead, it should challenge you. Keep in mind, the monsters are not under the bed—they are in your head. Once you start playing with your monsters and demonstrating your commitment to the game, they’ll disappear.

 

8.  Don’t suppress your feelings. Our feelings give depth and dimension to life. Without contrast, life would be utterly flat. Even negative emotions can be beautiful when consciously experienced. Don’t suppress your feelings and let them all out. Only then will you be able to transform it.

 

9.  Learn to forgive fast. Practice staying away from the game of judgment and evaluation. It doesn’t add value to anyone. When we forgive others, we are actually forgiving and empowering ourselves, because we let go of all the negative energy trapped within our bodies.

 

Life is a delightful process of going in and out of the realization of perfection much as if we were chasing an elusive butterfly with tattered nets. The further along we go, the more conscious we become, and the more frequent the moments of peak experiences. This path leads to a transformational shift in identity. Then it all seems worthwhile, and celebration of life, along with every moment, becomes second nature.

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Life , Business Non-Judgemental Me.

The moment I decided to be Non-judgemental , I realized the volume of judgements delivered by me all the time. I and everyone around me do it every minute,every day. Differentiating one thing from other is the major activity of our brain throughout the day.Opinonated Life has become a practice.This Human/Brand is better than other. This kind of job is more satisfying.This food is good and that is bad. Moment to moment, I dont like crowd.Moment you are totaly alone, ''I dont like to be lonely''. I like this song , I like that girl, I preffer  doing Business rather a Job.Moment you ender office on Monday someone asks ,"Hey, How was your weekend?" (We talk in Opinions). You reply ,"Great!" even thoughh you might have had a lousy weekend ,fight with your GF or something (You replied and gave a judgement). If you will observe yourself or your conversations with people around you , you will understand better.

Its required sometime and its harmless when its at appropriate place , however it becomes a deep rooted habbit. We start to do it everywhere , during tea breaks, In a friends gathering, to strike a conversation and every where.Society around you appreciate it. If you dont have opinion ,some treat you like a fool. Wise guys say ,"be decisive, this isde or that side".

Is it really inevitable? Does difference really exists? Is there only this way or that way? I dont think so.I disagree. TRUTH says to FALSE ,"I am another you". Bad says to Good,"I am another you". High says to Low,"I start where you end and you vanish where i menifest". There is no difference or rather a virtual difference. Just that we never observe. You can never make out where one starts and other one ends.

If you have ever observed a line drawn on a paper. Its a dots joined from one another. if you observe Circle , its nothing but numerous dots conected with lines. A line emerges from a dot and Circle from a line. Similarly , Cleanliness emerges from dirtyness. Bad emerges from good. We get scared of bad,dirt,false etc and tries to judge it a totaly different thing.As if its from a different planet.Result, problem remains a problem. Fear of bad never leaves us.

Almost everone in my genration says they cant do job and wants to start thiere own business. Irony is , hardly anyone does it.Talk to elders about it and they say it with a wisdom that Busness is one thing and job is another.Business hai kya , hai to ek cheez. Its nothing but another trait. it also requires effort, hounesty and mostly perseverance. Dont you practice these things in your job in one form or other, yes you do. I dont deny the challenges of business ,however can you deny the tolerance of a job? There will be difference and there should be a difference , however its not as big sa Grand Canon. Hounest , determined heart will do both things equaly good.

Bieng non-judgemental helps you use your intelect to observe thing with a 'open mind'.You can decide on every new things in absolute sence rather in a relative sence and miss out by bieng opinionated with it. It makes you more interesting person to talk with. It lightens your mind and trust me makes you Happier... full of life!

Its still a ongoing strugle for me and probably it will always be :)

Sempre Fi :)

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When life starts to rock!

Energy is spent in chasing to be something or someone and few spend to become no one. A never ending list of what I wana be. Ripped body like Brad Pitt....Volume of Hair Like Sharukh khan.... Determination like lance Armstrong.... Humor like Jim carry... Mind/IQ like Bill gates....Business Accumen like Warner Buffet.... Money like King of Brunae...and it never ends.

Why can't we get comfortable , with ouself? get comfortable with your recieting hairline , get comfortable with average built , get comfortable with things and people around you , get comfortabe that you are a lazy ass, get comfortable with your beauty.... just....GET COMFORTABLE :)

This doesn't mean you never fight. Fight only if your sole says it, trust your gutt feeling. never start a chase if other says that thing is beautifull and worth fighting for. If your sole gives voice for it do it , however still be comfortable with your PRESENT as your chase, your fight is still for the "FUTURE". Best way is love that FUTURE so much that you and FUTURE becomes one and the same.If that happens you feel happiness as you have achieved your goal emotionally and that makes you comfortable with yourself.You never bother about the worse in you as you are drifting toward it and you hardly makes an effort for it.Whenever it become tough, all it takes is to visualize and all your zeal bounces back.... your are jumping in your bed like a kid :)

Observe N...Get comfortable and thats when your life starts to rock! ... Be your own celebrity :)

Chao!

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Proposed a gud friend!

Getting crush over a beautifull girl if damn often and when she is good friend of yours, it becomes most probable.Whats new in it and whats wrong in it? ...right? So for the sake of not being a jerk, dont over react!.. particularly Girls :)

Hiding that feeling sucks big time.Friendship suffers and takes all positive vibes out of it.Accept it as we cant live without water or air. It may happen to anyone, may be to you to in some point of time. And be open to it, be open to your beauty. Other person can't help it....you are so fuckin beutifull.You Charm doesnt goes off his head. Its fine if you dont feel similarly.Reject the proposal with a love and respect. Help him out of that feeling, it goes off in some time and friendship bounces back.

Its horrible to over react like a jerk. Chill people, dont take yourself so seriously or atleast admire yourself that you are so beautifull. have fun with your beauty and embrace the lovers of your beauty...accept few and help others.....This will never lead to hidden feeling....and will lead to a lighter hearts....great place to be :)

Chill :)

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Love is without limitations and judgements of any kind.I recollected it yesterday in a function when 'somebody' told me that he had won prize for caromboard competition.And exactly next moment my unconscious was talking to me in my Mom's voice, "Nani chali gaya beta!". That was a line uttered by my mom  when my granny passed Away.....

 

She was a person who smiles on her Defeat and can accept humor out of it but her victory is the only way if you want to end the game.Defeat for her was just the begning of another game and victory is only way to disperse.

 

In summer of 90s , in my school days   we used to visit our elders in summer vacations. It seems like a dream now....  A farm house built by britisher's, surrounded by mango, litchi orchards and many huge trees , whose name is known by a urban fool like me.

In afternoon's once everyone used tired of talking , sleeping and sitting blank , a sweet voice , nourished by speaking 'maithli' whole life, used to ask ,"carom khelogey beta ? Yeh toh kabhi Nahi kheltey Hain " pointing to Nana. And game after game used to take place till sunlight has faded Away.....

Carom faded away with her and am still in  tears feeling her smile , which I will never see again.

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5-Minute Management Course

Lesson 1:

A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings.

The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs.

When she opens the door, there stands Bob , the next-door neighbor..

Before she says a word, Bob says, 'I'll give you $800 to drop that towel.'

After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob , after a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 and leaves.

The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs.

When she gets to the bathroom, her husband asks, 'Who was that?'

'It was Bob the next door neighbour,' she replies.

'Great,' the husband says, 'did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?'


Moral of the story:

If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure.




Lesson 2:

A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp.

They rub it and a Genie comes out.
The Genie says, 'I'll give each of you just one wish.'
'Me first! Me first!' says the admin clerk 'I want to be in the Bahamas , driving a speedboat, without a care in the world.'
Puff! She's gone.

'Me next! Me next!' says the sales rep. 'I want to be in Hawaii , relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life.'
Puff! He's gone.

'OK, you're up,' the Genie says to the manager.
The manager says, 'I want those two back in the office after lunch'

Moral of the story:
Always let your boss have the first say.

Lesson 3

An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing.

A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him, 'Can I also sit like you and do nothing?'
The eagle answered: 'Sure, why not.'

So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on th e rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story:
To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.


Lesson 4

A turkey was chatting with a bull.

'I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree' sighed the turkey, 'but I haven't got the energy.'
'Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?' replied the bull. They're packed with nutrients..'

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree.

The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch.

Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at t he top of the tree.

He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the tree.


Moral of the story:
Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.


Lesson 5

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field.

While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him.

As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was.

The dung was actually thawing him out!

He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy.
A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate.

Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.


Morals of the story:
(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.

(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your
friend.

(3 ) And when you're in deep shit, it's best to keep
your mouth shut!

Never say Never!...OR... Dare to say NEVER!

Long long time ago I saw a play in Bangalore.Title was,Cotton 56, Polyester 84.It was presented by a theater group of Bombay.Not to mention,that cast had many familiar faces from Bollywood.Apart from familiarity,the acting was top class and impact of its dialogues lasts still at the back of conscious.

Out of many impacting dialogues, at present i am recollecting is where a black fat actor sitting on the crossroad below the shade of a tree.Such spot can easily be located in most of the Indian Towns and serves variety of purpose.Its a second home for all unemployed and Retired men.Its a 'single source of truth' for every rumor/information in that town.Its serves as a Google map for the travelers passing by.Its rural GPS for anyone searching for anyone.Its a conference hall for most important discussions and where public opinion is needed.And my dialogue can be catagorised in the last one.

Man of house is a union leader and mill got closed due to shift in market trend.He is unemployed and gets into fight with wife or son , almost everyday.Today he got to know that his son has got acqinted with the local don and the money which he appreciated as sons income is from Grey of the society.In a disheartened state he catches hold of his close friend and walks down to the shade of the tree.
He says," Kya badal gaya AAJ aur KAL mein.Yeh 'chalta hai' piddi kaisey ban gayi hai.Kyun kisi ko kisi cheez se CHIDH nahi hai.Kyun kisi ko kisi cheez se behadd pyaar nahi hai".[In English: What has transformed in the present time from yesterdays time. From where has the evolution of such generation taken place,which is governed by ,"never mind"/ "it OK"/ "who cares".Why don't they DETEST something?Why don't they ADORE something?]

These words come to my mind again and again when I see compromise till an extent where it transforms into cowardice.When a it acquires character of weakness.These words holds me I pledge "NeVeR eVeR" to certain thing and become weak,alone to achieve it.I say to myself, I DARE TO SAY NEVER.I will adhere to it till I know I am right!.I have that metal to stick to something.I have a DREAM ,I have a VISION , I have ZEAL and none of these words mean if I get a taste of "Chalta Hai".

For wrongs in life NEVER SAY NEVER might work and may be benificial also.However when its again to come out of that ,you nshould dare to say never and fight till the end.

I still swing between these two extreames and find my self doing one or the othere and when I become too caual with my approach,my sub counscious wispers in my ears ,"Kyun kisi ko kisi cheez se CHIDH nahi hai.Kyun kisi ko kisi cheez se behadd pyaar nahi hai" :)

Chao!

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